Letting go without falling apart!

 Turning the Page 

There was a time when I thought that if I didn’t hold it all together—every conversation, every crisis, every outcome—then everything would fall apart. And to be honest, sometimes it did. But not in the way I feared.

You see, I spent years trying to manage the chaos in my family, convincing myself it was love. I enabled out of fear. I controlled out of trauma. I over-functioned because I didn’t want anyone to feel abandoned. But what I didn’t realize is that in trying to be everyone’s safety net, I was standing in the way of what only God could do.

Letting go was not an easy lesson for me. It felt like failure at first—like quitting. But in reality, it was obedience. It was surrender. It was trusting that God’s plan didn’t need my manipulation—it needed my faith.

And here’s what I learned: letting go and change are not inherently traumatic. We’ve just been conditioned to brace for impact when seasons shift. But sometimes, the most beautiful transformations happen when we finally release the grip and let God take over.

When I stepped back, God stepped in. It didn’t happen overnight, but slowly, He began to weave something new in my family. Restoration, healing, growth—none of which could have happened while I was clenching everything so tightly.

There’s a verse that says, “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up—do you not perceive it?” (Isaiah 43:18-19). I used to read that and think it was for someone else. But now I know—it was for me. And maybe today, it’s for you, too.

If you’re standing in a place where everything feels uncertain… maybe it's not falling apart. Maybe it’s just time to turn the page.

You’re not being irresponsible by letting go of what you were never meant to carry. You’re not failing by no longer enabling dysfunction. You’re just making room for God to be God.

If that resonates, I want to invite you to explore what it might look like to stop bracing for trauma and start believing for transformation. Send me a message to book a Prophetic Strategy Session, and let’s see what God is ready to restore as you turn the page.

Love y’all. Talk soon.