What do I do now ?

 

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What Do You Do When You Can’t Fix It?

So many times in life, we’re faced with situations completely out of our control.
It might be a marriage where your spouse is making choices you don’t agree with.
It might be a child making decisions you know will lead to pain.
It might be a job where leadership is going in a direction you just can’t support.

You get the idea—life has a way of handing us people, moments, and messes that we didn’t sign up for.

So what do we do?
Do we ignore it?
Do we jump in and try to fix it?
Do we walk away from the relationship, the job, or the situation altogether?

Honestly… probably none of those.
Most of the time, we need to choose a strategy to walk through it.
Because here’s the truth: life will continue to hand us things we aren’t ready for and don’t like.

Scripture doesn’t shy away from that.
It tells us that troubled times are guaranteed—but how we handle them is where the real growth happens.
The goal is to count it all joy, right?

I don’t know about you, but I’ve failed that test plenty of times—recently and in the past.
One area that really stands out for me is parenting.

I was a survival-mode parent for so many years.
Then when my first set of kids were about 15 and 16, I began trying to parent with more intention.
No one really understood it.
No one liked the shift.

Later, with my second set of kids around age 12 and 14, I began to break free from codependency.
I set boundaries.
And—again—nobody liked that either.

And I get it.
When you’ve lived a certain way for so long, and then you try to make changes, the people who’ve grown used to the old version of you often push back.
Even when you know it’s the right way, you still question yourself.
You wonder,
Should I even be doing this?
Should I just go back to the old ways?

But God didn’t call me to stay stuck.
He called me to be free—and to help others find freedom too.

And freedom?
It often comes with isolation.
With misunderstanding.
With rejection.

When you break codependency, it’s usually the people most dependent on you who resist the change the hardest.
And unless they’re breaking their own cycles, they might not come with you right away—if at all.

But somehow, there’s always one.
One person who says yes.
One who steps out first.
One who chooses freedom even when it costs everything.

God always seems to start with one.
He picked Gideon.
He picked David.
He picked Joseph.

Not because they were perfect or polished—truthfully, we don’t even know why He chose them.
But He did.
And He equipped them.
Even when they messed up.
Even when they doubted.
He stayed.
And He stays with you, too.

If you're still reading this, you might just be the one in your family, in your circle, in your generation.
And while that can feel heavy—it’s also holy.

So I don’t know what this week will bring you…
But I do know something will likely pop up that you weren’t expecting.
Something that tries to knock the wind out of you.

When it happens—not if, but when—remember this:
It’s happening for you, not to you.

And how you respond will determine whether you have to take the test again.
(Take it from someone who’s retaken a few of them more than once.)

God will not give up on you.
And honestly?
That’s the best news of all.